Monday, June 6, 2011
An experience of LOVE
The deepest abyss.... containing ALL life and creation. And the verb of loving is to recognize that in that very darkness where our fears, insecurities, and weaknesses come up is the very place where LOVE begins. It is our opportunity to ACCEPT that vastness within us. That is LOVE. ♥
Thursday, September 17, 2009
Many names for the Moon
As we inevitably watch our world hurt our celestial friend, I am reminded of the connection we once used to know to the feminine aspect of ourselves..... I pray that we will honor Her once again. My love to you dear Hecate.....
A (also Sirdu, Sirrida): Moon Goddess of Chaldeans. Depicted as a disk with eight rays.
Annit: Northern Babylonian Goddess who was superseded by Ishtar. Originally the ruler of the moon, Annit was portrayed as a disk with eight rays. She and Sin, a male moon god would come to the aid of mortals.
Arianrod: Welsh Moon Goddess and one of several children of the mother Goddess Don. Her home was in the constellation Corona Borealis.
Artemis: Moon Goddess of both Greeks and the legendary Amazons. Worshipers payed homage to her on nights of the ful moon by reveling in the forest under the moon’s light. She was associated with the Waxing Moon.
Artimpaasa: Scythian Moon Goddess.
Athenesic: Native American Moon Goddess. Auchimalgen: Chilean Moon Goddess who served as protector of the Auracanians.
Britomartis: Originally a Crean Moon Godess, later assimilated by the conquering Greeks. Britomartis would appear in the night’s sky to aid sea going navigators.
Candi: The female counterpart to Chandra, ancient Hindy lord of the Moon. The two were said to take turns: one month the moon would be Candi, the next Chandra.
Caotlicue: Aztec Moon Goddess and wife of the Sun God. Sometimes called the lunar counterpart to the Earth Goddess Coatlicue.
Chang-o (also Chang-wo, Heng-E, Heng-O): Chinese Moon Goddess. According to legend, she was the wife of a famous archer to who the gods had promised immortality. Chang-o stood her husband’s magical potion, drank it, and was forced to escape his wrath by fleeing to the moon in the shape of a frog. She is represented in the dark spots of the moon as a three-legged frog.
Dae-Soon: Korean Moon Goddess
Diana: Roman assimilation of the Greek Moon Goddess Artemis. Diana was often portrayed riding the moon, with a bow in her hands. She was frequently worshiped out in the open, so she could look down at her faithful.
Europa: A Cretan Goddess who had lunar attributes; her consort animal was a bull. Europa takes it’s name from her.
Gnatoo: Moon Goddess of the Friendly Islands. Her portrayal, as a woman pounding out tapa, is a motif of Polynesian woman-in-the-moon myths.
Gwaten: Japanese Buddist lunar Goddess, one of twelve Buddist deities called the Jiu No O, adopted from Hindu mythology. Gwaten is derived from the Hindu God Soma, and is portrayed as a woman holding in her right hand, a disk symbollizing the Moon.
Hanwi: Oglala Moon Goddess who lived with the Sun God Wi. She was tricked by a woman into giving up her seat next to Wi and was shamed. She left Wi’s home and went her own way, as a punishment she was forced to give up rulership of dawn and twilight, and to hide her face when near the sun.
Hecate: Greek Moon Goddess who came out at night carrying a torch and accompanied by dogs. She was said to frequent crossroads, where statues to her were erected. A triple Goddess, she was sometimes pictured as having the heads of a dog, a horse, and a serpent. Worshippers paid tribute on nights of the full moon by leaving offerings at her statues. As queen of the night, Hecate ruled spirits, ghosts, and infernal creatures such as ghouls. She was the patroness of Witchcraft.
Hina (also Ina): Polynesian Goddess. In Hawaiian mythology, her full name is Hina-hanaia-ka-malma, which means “the woman who worked in the moon”. Various stories tell how she went there. In one story, she sailed her canoe to the moon. In another, her brother, angered by noise she was making after a night of heavy drinking, threw her into the heavens. In Tahitian and Hawaiian myths, she grew weary of beating out tapa and escaped her drudgery by fleeing to the moon. In another Hawaiian myth, a chief lured her up from a land under the seas, and from her gourd came the moon and the stars. Another myth credits her with creating the first coconuts with Te Tuna “The Eel.”.
Huitaca (also Chia): Moon Goddess to the ancient Chibacha Native Americans, who lived in what now is Columbia. Huitaca was depicted as an owl. Representing the spirit of joy and pleasure, she was constantly at odds with the male Bochica, who stood for hard work, and a solemn approach to daily living. In some legends, Huitaca was the wife of Bochica, whom she had trid to ruin by destroying his believers by unleashing a great flood. He took vengance on her by hurling her into the sky, and turning her into the moon.
Ishtar (also Asdar, Astar, Istar, Istaru): Babylonian Goddess who ruled the Moon, derived in part from the Sumerian goddess Inanna. In some accounts Ishtar was the daughter of the Moon God Sin and sister of Shamash the Sun God. According to legend, on a trip to the underworld to find Tammuz, her dead lover, she had shed her clothes, which caused the moon to darken. On her return trip, as she regained her clothes, the moon brightened again.
Isis: Egyptian Goddess who was both the moon and the mother of the sun. She was depicted holding a papyrus scepter and the ankh, which represents life.
Ix Chel: Mayan Goddess of the Moon. Ix Chel and the Sun were lovers, but because the sun was always jealous, it was a stormy relationship. The Sun would routinely tell her to leave heaven, only to set off to find her again. Travelling the night sky, Ix Chel would make herself invisible when the sun approached.
Juno: Roman Sky and Moon Goddess. The apprearance of the new moon would bring out her women worshipers.
Lalal (also Losna, Lucna): Etruscan Moon Goddess
Luna: Roman Goddess of the Moon. Associated with Selene, Diana, and Hecate.
Mah: Persian Moon Goddess, whose light makes plants grow.
Mama Quilla: Incan Moon Goddess who protected married women. Her most famous temple was erected at Cuzco, seat of the Incan Empire. She was portrayed as a silver disk with feminine features. It was said eclipses resulted when Mama Quilla was eaten by a heavenly jaguar.
Mawa: African Moon Goddess, who ruled the heavens with her twin brother, Lisa.
Metztli: Aztec Moon Goddess. According to mythology, Metztli would leap into a blazing fire to give birth to the sun in the morning sky.
Pandia: Greek Goddess associated with Selene, the Greek Goddess of the Full Moon.
Perse (also Persea, Persels): Early Greek Moon Goddess.
Pheraia: Little is known about this Thessalian Goddess. Possibly, she was associated with the moon because she was depicted carrying a torch and riding a bull, a lunar animal.
Rabie: Indonesian Moon Goddess.
Ri (also Re): Phoenician Moon Goddess
Sardarnuna: Sumerian Goddess of the New Moon. Selene (also Mene, Selena): Greek Goddess of the Full Moon. Wearing wings and a crescent crown, Selene rode in a chariot pulled by two white horses.
Teczistecatal: Ancient Mexican Moon Goddess.
Titania: Epithet for Diana, Roman Moon Goddess
Tlazolteotl (also Tlaculteutl): Aztec Sex Goddess who may have had lunar associations. Tlazolteotl whose name means “Lady of Dirt”, produced lust and then forgave those who lusted. She especially favoured illicit affairs. She had four aspects, which have been interpreted in modern times as representing four phases of the moon.
Yellow Woman: Huntress Godess of the Keres, a Pueblo tribe. Yellow Woman is similar to the Roman’s Diana and also appears to have lunar associations; her name itself is evocative of moonlight. In myths that seem to explain phases and the moon’s occasional daytime appearances, Yellow Woman is killed at night and her brother, Arrow Youth, searches for her with the help of Great Star. Arrow Youth wants her to be alive during the day. He is told by the chief of spirits that she will stay away for four days. He searches for her among melon rinds, symbols of the crescent moon. Then her heart is found, and her head is washed. She puts on a dress and is seen during the day.
Yemanja: Ocean Goddess of Brazilian Macumba, Yemanja also has lunar associations. She is portrayed as the crescent moon.
Yohuatliceti: Moon Goddess of the ancient Mexicans.
Yolkai Estsan (also Yokalikaiason): Navajo moon Goddess. Make from abalone shell, Yolkai was the sister of the Sky Goddess Estsatehi.
Zarpandit (also Zerbanit, Zerbanitu, Zerpanitum, and Beltis): Babylonian Goddess worshipped nightly at the appearance of the moon.
Zirna: Etruscan Moon Goddess. She was depected wearing a half moon around her neck
A (also Sirdu, Sirrida): Moon Goddess of Chaldeans. Depicted as a disk with eight rays.
Annit: Northern Babylonian Goddess who was superseded by Ishtar. Originally the ruler of the moon, Annit was portrayed as a disk with eight rays. She and Sin, a male moon god would come to the aid of mortals.
Arianrod: Welsh Moon Goddess and one of several children of the mother Goddess Don. Her home was in the constellation Corona Borealis.
Artemis: Moon Goddess of both Greeks and the legendary Amazons. Worshipers payed homage to her on nights of the ful moon by reveling in the forest under the moon’s light. She was associated with the Waxing Moon.
Artimpaasa: Scythian Moon Goddess.
Athenesic: Native American Moon Goddess. Auchimalgen: Chilean Moon Goddess who served as protector of the Auracanians.
Britomartis: Originally a Crean Moon Godess, later assimilated by the conquering Greeks. Britomartis would appear in the night’s sky to aid sea going navigators.
Candi: The female counterpart to Chandra, ancient Hindy lord of the Moon. The two were said to take turns: one month the moon would be Candi, the next Chandra.
Caotlicue: Aztec Moon Goddess and wife of the Sun God. Sometimes called the lunar counterpart to the Earth Goddess Coatlicue.
Chang-o (also Chang-wo, Heng-E, Heng-O): Chinese Moon Goddess. According to legend, she was the wife of a famous archer to who the gods had promised immortality. Chang-o stood her husband’s magical potion, drank it, and was forced to escape his wrath by fleeing to the moon in the shape of a frog. She is represented in the dark spots of the moon as a three-legged frog.
Dae-Soon: Korean Moon Goddess
Diana: Roman assimilation of the Greek Moon Goddess Artemis. Diana was often portrayed riding the moon, with a bow in her hands. She was frequently worshiped out in the open, so she could look down at her faithful.
Europa: A Cretan Goddess who had lunar attributes; her consort animal was a bull. Europa takes it’s name from her.
Gnatoo: Moon Goddess of the Friendly Islands. Her portrayal, as a woman pounding out tapa, is a motif of Polynesian woman-in-the-moon myths.
Gwaten: Japanese Buddist lunar Goddess, one of twelve Buddist deities called the Jiu No O, adopted from Hindu mythology. Gwaten is derived from the Hindu God Soma, and is portrayed as a woman holding in her right hand, a disk symbollizing the Moon.
Hanwi: Oglala Moon Goddess who lived with the Sun God Wi. She was tricked by a woman into giving up her seat next to Wi and was shamed. She left Wi’s home and went her own way, as a punishment she was forced to give up rulership of dawn and twilight, and to hide her face when near the sun.
Hecate: Greek Moon Goddess who came out at night carrying a torch and accompanied by dogs. She was said to frequent crossroads, where statues to her were erected. A triple Goddess, she was sometimes pictured as having the heads of a dog, a horse, and a serpent. Worshippers paid tribute on nights of the full moon by leaving offerings at her statues. As queen of the night, Hecate ruled spirits, ghosts, and infernal creatures such as ghouls. She was the patroness of Witchcraft.
Hina (also Ina): Polynesian Goddess. In Hawaiian mythology, her full name is Hina-hanaia-ka-malma, which means “the woman who worked in the moon”. Various stories tell how she went there. In one story, she sailed her canoe to the moon. In another, her brother, angered by noise she was making after a night of heavy drinking, threw her into the heavens. In Tahitian and Hawaiian myths, she grew weary of beating out tapa and escaped her drudgery by fleeing to the moon. In another Hawaiian myth, a chief lured her up from a land under the seas, and from her gourd came the moon and the stars. Another myth credits her with creating the first coconuts with Te Tuna “The Eel.”.
Huitaca (also Chia): Moon Goddess to the ancient Chibacha Native Americans, who lived in what now is Columbia. Huitaca was depicted as an owl. Representing the spirit of joy and pleasure, she was constantly at odds with the male Bochica, who stood for hard work, and a solemn approach to daily living. In some legends, Huitaca was the wife of Bochica, whom she had trid to ruin by destroying his believers by unleashing a great flood. He took vengance on her by hurling her into the sky, and turning her into the moon.
Ishtar (also Asdar, Astar, Istar, Istaru): Babylonian Goddess who ruled the Moon, derived in part from the Sumerian goddess Inanna. In some accounts Ishtar was the daughter of the Moon God Sin and sister of Shamash the Sun God. According to legend, on a trip to the underworld to find Tammuz, her dead lover, she had shed her clothes, which caused the moon to darken. On her return trip, as she regained her clothes, the moon brightened again.
Isis: Egyptian Goddess who was both the moon and the mother of the sun. She was depicted holding a papyrus scepter and the ankh, which represents life.
Ix Chel: Mayan Goddess of the Moon. Ix Chel and the Sun were lovers, but because the sun was always jealous, it was a stormy relationship. The Sun would routinely tell her to leave heaven, only to set off to find her again. Travelling the night sky, Ix Chel would make herself invisible when the sun approached.
Juno: Roman Sky and Moon Goddess. The apprearance of the new moon would bring out her women worshipers.
Lalal (also Losna, Lucna): Etruscan Moon Goddess
Luna: Roman Goddess of the Moon. Associated with Selene, Diana, and Hecate.
Mah: Persian Moon Goddess, whose light makes plants grow.
Mama Quilla: Incan Moon Goddess who protected married women. Her most famous temple was erected at Cuzco, seat of the Incan Empire. She was portrayed as a silver disk with feminine features. It was said eclipses resulted when Mama Quilla was eaten by a heavenly jaguar.
Mawa: African Moon Goddess, who ruled the heavens with her twin brother, Lisa.
Metztli: Aztec Moon Goddess. According to mythology, Metztli would leap into a blazing fire to give birth to the sun in the morning sky.
Pandia: Greek Goddess associated with Selene, the Greek Goddess of the Full Moon.
Perse (also Persea, Persels): Early Greek Moon Goddess.
Pheraia: Little is known about this Thessalian Goddess. Possibly, she was associated with the moon because she was depicted carrying a torch and riding a bull, a lunar animal.
Rabie: Indonesian Moon Goddess.
Ri (also Re): Phoenician Moon Goddess
Sardarnuna: Sumerian Goddess of the New Moon. Selene (also Mene, Selena): Greek Goddess of the Full Moon. Wearing wings and a crescent crown, Selene rode in a chariot pulled by two white horses.
Teczistecatal: Ancient Mexican Moon Goddess.
Titania: Epithet for Diana, Roman Moon Goddess
Tlazolteotl (also Tlaculteutl): Aztec Sex Goddess who may have had lunar associations. Tlazolteotl whose name means “Lady of Dirt”, produced lust and then forgave those who lusted. She especially favoured illicit affairs. She had four aspects, which have been interpreted in modern times as representing four phases of the moon.
Yellow Woman: Huntress Godess of the Keres, a Pueblo tribe. Yellow Woman is similar to the Roman’s Diana and also appears to have lunar associations; her name itself is evocative of moonlight. In myths that seem to explain phases and the moon’s occasional daytime appearances, Yellow Woman is killed at night and her brother, Arrow Youth, searches for her with the help of Great Star. Arrow Youth wants her to be alive during the day. He is told by the chief of spirits that she will stay away for four days. He searches for her among melon rinds, symbols of the crescent moon. Then her heart is found, and her head is washed. She puts on a dress and is seen during the day.
Yemanja: Ocean Goddess of Brazilian Macumba, Yemanja also has lunar associations. She is portrayed as the crescent moon.
Yohuatliceti: Moon Goddess of the ancient Mexicans.
Yolkai Estsan (also Yokalikaiason): Navajo moon Goddess. Make from abalone shell, Yolkai was the sister of the Sky Goddess Estsatehi.
Zarpandit (also Zerbanit, Zerbanitu, Zerpanitum, and Beltis): Babylonian Goddess worshipped nightly at the appearance of the moon.
Zirna: Etruscan Moon Goddess. She was depected wearing a half moon around her neck
Tuesday, May 12, 2009
We can only help ourselves...
All relationships require experimentation and practice. What I learn in one relationship is mine to take to another one if I choose or need to. We go to school to learn to read; we have relationships to learn how to have relationships.
In my experience in Ayurveda so far, I am in this to learn to help others...but first I must learn the slippery slope of staying centered through all of that...most importantly to heal myself first. Every relationship whether intimate or friendship will go through many periods of change in its time together. It will be enough for me to handle my own changing without becoming tied up in yours. When you become obsessed by something, it will be time to back up and give you and me more space... If instead, I see your obsession as a time for me to move in close, I will become wrapped up in that obsession that has root's in your pysche. I will not have the benefit of playing something out within me that needs to be seen--I will just drive myself nuts with my obsession with your obsession. This never leads to anything balanced. I have experienced losing you many times in your preoccupation, just as you are losing yourself to your internal struggle...I want to find you and help by getting involved...but only you can get yourself out of that place. This time I will just hold space for you. Be honored to be your friend. I will stay centered. I will live and learn.
In my experience in Ayurveda so far, I am in this to learn to help others...but first I must learn the slippery slope of staying centered through all of that...most importantly to heal myself first. Every relationship whether intimate or friendship will go through many periods of change in its time together. It will be enough for me to handle my own changing without becoming tied up in yours. When you become obsessed by something, it will be time to back up and give you and me more space... If instead, I see your obsession as a time for me to move in close, I will become wrapped up in that obsession that has root's in your pysche. I will not have the benefit of playing something out within me that needs to be seen--I will just drive myself nuts with my obsession with your obsession. This never leads to anything balanced. I have experienced losing you many times in your preoccupation, just as you are losing yourself to your internal struggle...I want to find you and help by getting involved...but only you can get yourself out of that place. This time I will just hold space for you. Be honored to be your friend. I will stay centered. I will live and learn.
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Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Help Hollis!!
One of my dearest and long term friends Hollis Hawthorne went on an amazing adventure to India recently and has now been in a motorcycle accident!! For those of us who have been touched by this daring individual there is a site to help get her home called Friends of Hollis Hawthorne.http://friendsofhollis.blogspot.com/Here is an excerpt from that site explaining more about what happened....For those of you who know Hollis, she has been in a motorcycle accident in Pondicherry, India.There was a motorcycle in front of her with three passengers that skidded out, and she either swerved to avoid them or ran into them. She was wearing a helmet. Her friend Harrison was on the scene to give her CPR until the ambulance arrived. This happened on wednesday 2/25/09.The main damage to her body is brain stem damage with a skull fracture at the back of her head. Her ear was cut pretty badly, and she had some major blood loss.She is still in a coma and she is not breathing on her own since the accident. Her vital signs are stabilized. Her fluids and body are being monitored through her heart. Her lung has not collapsed. Her brain is no longer hemorrhaging. She is reacting to stimulus, so gifts with smells or sounds help. Her body is becoming ridged and shaky. She is out of emergency room where other people were dying and in a hospital room.A fund will be set up through a website to cover cost and needs.KT is having a gathering on Sunday and another benefit is being arranged, venue suggestions? Her mother will arrive Saturday 28th in the morning.This girl needs our love and support!!! Please join me in helping get her arse back to us....WE LOVE YOU DEAR GODDESS GIRL!Hila
Update March 3rd:
Since then a fund has been set up and I am talked with Harrison's mom Karen (Hollis's beau) to help find research on getting an air ambulance that will transport her back to the states. She has been moved to a hospital in Chennai (apollo). That happened last night sometime. I have a friend who was just in South India this last summer and is working with me to gert a translator and info on who at the consulate or embassy office will help. She already has a place to go when she gets back to California. They have a charity spot for her at Stanford Hospital in San Fransisco. This is wonderfu lsince she doesn't have insurance. Please check out the blogspot page and get this info out to everyone you know. Every little bit counts!
Thank you all for your love and support!!
Hilary
Update March 3rd:
Since then a fund has been set up and I am talked with Harrison's mom Karen (Hollis's beau) to help find research on getting an air ambulance that will transport her back to the states. She has been moved to a hospital in Chennai (apollo). That happened last night sometime. I have a friend who was just in South India this last summer and is working with me to gert a translator and info on who at the consulate or embassy office will help. She already has a place to go when she gets back to California. They have a charity spot for her at Stanford Hospital in San Fransisco. This is wonderfu lsince she doesn't have insurance. Please check out the blogspot page and get this info out to everyone you know. Every little bit counts!
Thank you all for your love and support!!
Hilary
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Thursday, February 26, 2009
Growing into the Earth
Change is the only thing we can count on. This is something I have known all my life. I am used to chaos and ever changing situations. This was not my doing in the beginning on my life, but it is what I have grown used to so to speak. Some of that is a good thing. I have tools to deal with change and in letting go of all kinds of things. The downside is that I never let myself believe that I could in fact grow roots. I didn't know how or even where to begin. I only knew where to start when it came to what I knew well....opening up emotionally and scraping all the bull shit aside. But the tools to be practical and successful finacially? Nope...wasn't even sure I had it in me. This is probably the most important lesson I decided to learn. What I knew how to do well was connect with people.
It was when I met a man that possesed these qualities, I was intrigued and genuinely interested in growing with him. Be careful what you ask for if you are not fully ready.....He taught me so much about myself and so much about love. In a way that had never been given to me.....but because I couldn't offer the roots he so much needed, that love dissapated into harsh diss-connect. It was self-protection. I understand that now...See the set tools I had were not seen as something valuable to him. And that was why it was time to move on...
I wanted to be fully ready then, but to give myself some grace...this was the first time I had taken a road like that....My heart was ready, but I let my head get in the way all too often. What I can say now that the relationship is over, is I learned to take those lessons of stability to heart. My goal now is to take that road myself and not in a relationship. To grow the roots in myself and be finacially secure. I am on that road now. So proud of myself for being trusting and for not letting the hurt in this last relationship keep me from being the TP (total package). That love may have dissapated because it took a bit too long to fully comprehend and process each step that would of kept the relationship intact. I was learning but not at a pace that he needed me to be. But what I can do is take these life lessons of love and growth into my present and future.....
I know that each day I make the effort to grow I am not only evolving into the TP, but I am encouraging and inspiring in a new way. I used to be the muse. The motivational speaker...but now I am letting my actions begin to speak, and all those beautiful friends that have believed in me along the way are inspired that this butterfly girl can not only fly, but she can be solid in the earth like a tree growing roots.
It was when I met a man that possesed these qualities, I was intrigued and genuinely interested in growing with him. Be careful what you ask for if you are not fully ready.....He taught me so much about myself and so much about love. In a way that had never been given to me.....but because I couldn't offer the roots he so much needed, that love dissapated into harsh diss-connect. It was self-protection. I understand that now...See the set tools I had were not seen as something valuable to him. And that was why it was time to move on...
I wanted to be fully ready then, but to give myself some grace...this was the first time I had taken a road like that....My heart was ready, but I let my head get in the way all too often. What I can say now that the relationship is over, is I learned to take those lessons of stability to heart. My goal now is to take that road myself and not in a relationship. To grow the roots in myself and be finacially secure. I am on that road now. So proud of myself for being trusting and for not letting the hurt in this last relationship keep me from being the TP (total package). That love may have dissapated because it took a bit too long to fully comprehend and process each step that would of kept the relationship intact. I was learning but not at a pace that he needed me to be. But what I can do is take these life lessons of love and growth into my present and future.....
I know that each day I make the effort to grow I am not only evolving into the TP, but I am encouraging and inspiring in a new way. I used to be the muse. The motivational speaker...but now I am letting my actions begin to speak, and all those beautiful friends that have believed in me along the way are inspired that this butterfly girl can not only fly, but she can be solid in the earth like a tree growing roots.
Saturday, January 31, 2009
How We Can Be a Part of Each Other's Healing
When a friendship ends, or a relationship ends, we are usually left to pick up the pieces ourselves. We may even see a therapist or use some kind of meditation or prayer. I have certainly done this a number of times in my life and find it to be a great help.One thing we do know is that trying to repair the friendship or relationship isn't usually going to be talking or rebuilding directly with the other that we have lost. Sometimes this is good, because it is beyond repair (not in a lets get back together kind of way, but the trust foundation is totally broken for lines of communication). Sometimes there are no words even if we tried to say them. Sometimes even if we did try and repair the other isn't interested. If so, then we must do the work ourselves without that person in our lives.
I personally like to try first with meditation, reading and writing. It really helps me figure out what I can on my own. I usually am able to see both sides pretty quickly. I usually try and voice an apology for what I was responsible for...soemtimes this takes time....but as I grow I find it easier to say sorry and look at where I was responsible for the wreck so to speak. Then I really do appreciate when an old relationship can tell me what they went through or what they may have been responsible for. Its incredibly healing. If love's grace is showing the other our whole selves...the good the bad and the ugly....if love can only heal what it presents itself to be healed, and if we truly love someone and they love us, wouldn't it be ideal to give each other that grace without the confines of the realtionship that failed? Isn't it letting someone free?
Maybe just maybe when we shut the other person out and refuse to connect we are continuing to shut ourselves out of the very thing we need to address. But to try and heal it with an old realtionship? That sounds crazy right? Well what if you are friends...wouldn't you want to try and establish a new foundation that is solid? If both parties are willing, the opportunity to heal is incredible. Yes, there are boundaries that should be respected as in any relationship or friendship. Both people should be clear about what they want and where this is going. Trust does have to be re-established for sure. What if one person's idea of friends is a more a "how's the weather" appraoch...but they still want you in their life? Or what if the other one sees continuing a connetion as an opportunity to repair and heal, so deep communication is what's asked? Because they are not in sync, should they not talk altogether?
There are many reasons one puts up a front and shuts down. We may feel terror or panic when we see a once loving connection has been wrecked by our own fears, and maybe the other's too. But again, isn't this the very reason we should let go of this old stuff and truly forgive and recognize the beauty and sacred mystery of the other? Isn't this where we have an opportunity to move on in our next relationship so this doesn't keep occuring again and again? Our need for conncetion helps us to understand why it is so hard to let go of others.....when this is a peaceful and harmonious place we are more apt to move on with a smile. I think we must understand each other outside of the boxes we put ourselves and each other in. We must look at the whole picture and see the archtype that we are and who we have made the other. All our lives consisit of the very same issues if not addressed. If not now...when will we face these things?
The beauty of opening our heart to someone is the most powerful grace in the world. This is our greatest tool to be a part of the healing process for ourselves and for others.
I personally like to try first with meditation, reading and writing. It really helps me figure out what I can on my own. I usually am able to see both sides pretty quickly. I usually try and voice an apology for what I was responsible for...soemtimes this takes time....but as I grow I find it easier to say sorry and look at where I was responsible for the wreck so to speak. Then I really do appreciate when an old relationship can tell me what they went through or what they may have been responsible for. Its incredibly healing. If love's grace is showing the other our whole selves...the good the bad and the ugly....if love can only heal what it presents itself to be healed, and if we truly love someone and they love us, wouldn't it be ideal to give each other that grace without the confines of the realtionship that failed? Isn't it letting someone free?
Maybe just maybe when we shut the other person out and refuse to connect we are continuing to shut ourselves out of the very thing we need to address. But to try and heal it with an old realtionship? That sounds crazy right? Well what if you are friends...wouldn't you want to try and establish a new foundation that is solid? If both parties are willing, the opportunity to heal is incredible. Yes, there are boundaries that should be respected as in any relationship or friendship. Both people should be clear about what they want and where this is going. Trust does have to be re-established for sure. What if one person's idea of friends is a more a "how's the weather" appraoch...but they still want you in their life? Or what if the other one sees continuing a connetion as an opportunity to repair and heal, so deep communication is what's asked? Because they are not in sync, should they not talk altogether?
There are many reasons one puts up a front and shuts down. We may feel terror or panic when we see a once loving connection has been wrecked by our own fears, and maybe the other's too. But again, isn't this the very reason we should let go of this old stuff and truly forgive and recognize the beauty and sacred mystery of the other? Isn't this where we have an opportunity to move on in our next relationship so this doesn't keep occuring again and again? Our need for conncetion helps us to understand why it is so hard to let go of others.....when this is a peaceful and harmonious place we are more apt to move on with a smile. I think we must understand each other outside of the boxes we put ourselves and each other in. We must look at the whole picture and see the archtype that we are and who we have made the other. All our lives consisit of the very same issues if not addressed. If not now...when will we face these things?
The beauty of opening our heart to someone is the most powerful grace in the world. This is our greatest tool to be a part of the healing process for ourselves and for others.
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